Happy Valentine’s Day!
It’s not a really special day for the ‘singles’ or even for those in a relationship, because it’s a day like another, right?
I found some really lovely quotes about… love… That I find inspirational, towards relationships. Quotes let you stand still for a moment and think about yourself, and your feelings about the quote. Quotes actually help people, mostly it happens unconsciously, of course.
Have you ever been in a situation where you ‘unconsciously’ think of a quote you heard before, and live up to it? Like “Never raise your voice in an argument or you’ve already lost the argument.”. It’s in the back of your head.
Now for the quotes, quotes I think you shouldn’t forget:
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” – Lao Tzu
When you feel loved, what else do you feel? You feel happiness, friendship… It puts a smile on your face. And that’s why it gives you strength, because you would feel weak if no one loved you, if no one cared about you, right? That is where a lot of your strength comes from, from the people you love. And when you love someone (back) it takes courage, because you never know where this bond/relationship will bring you.
“Immature love says: ‘I love you because I need you.’ Mature love says ‘I need you because I love you.’” – Erich Fromm
When you were 12 years old you probably saw a lot of romantic relationships forming around you. But beside that, you also always see the love of your parents to one another. And sometimes you think “I want that too”. You want to fit in, so if you like someone you will quickly tell them you love them, because at that age you do not know what love really is. You just think ‘you need it’, “I need a boyfriend” or “I need love, like in the movies”. But when you’re 12 years old you (or most people) don’t think about their future with them. In contrast to adults, who learn the real meaning of love and affection. They fall in love, and don’t think about the others. You think about the person you love, how they treat you kindly, how they care for you. You need one another because apart you wouldn’t feel whole.
“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.” – Friedrich Nietzsche
I’m not married, I’m only a 19-year-old, but this is the same in ‘romantic relationships’, before marriage. You love each other unconditionally, but if you don’t speak to each other, play with each other, listen to each other, like best friends, then what’s the point? A relationship isn’t just about the affection. Your partner is your ‘soulmate’ and also your ‘best friend’.
“Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.” – Aristotle
It’s like I said in the quote above. A soul can be made of emotional energy, it’s something you both share. But you can’t share a body. You’re two different people who share the same energy.
“The course of true love never did run smooth.” – William Shakespeare
So many (young) people expect that relationships are all puppies and sunshine, you never have fights, you’re never mad at him/her, you never have differences, you never have an argument, … This can only (not) happen when you are dating yourself ;-). You are not the same, you are still different people but with a lot of the same interests, mostly. Your partner will not believe in everything you believe in. And you can’t take that away from him, because differences make a person unique, and you probably fell in love with him because of his differences. Relationships, marriages, will never run smoothly, you will have fights and arguments. But it only makes your relationship a lot stronger. Because in the end, you understand one another, and you forgive each other. But there are relationships where there are a lot of problems, and they never get solved. Because you may be different, but you can also be a lot different. But see, love isn’t supposed to be ‘easy’. When you’re having an argument with someone of your family, don’t you love them then? Of course you still love them, but again, you have your differences…
“When the power of love overcomes the love of power the world will know peace.” – Jimi Hendrix
This is of course true. So many people are in love with power, what sometimes make them forget about love. Because, people who are high on power, would set love aside. They would let their relationships fade away. Power such as war, power such as murder, power such as a boss with a really big company, who just wants it to keep getting bigger. But the power of love has so much more meaning. If you have the strength to love and care, then what better gift can you ever give? If there was more love than power, there would be no war, no murders, no bosses who don’t give a shit about their employees, and make them work like slaves, like in the most fashion industries. This quote is true, but it will sadly, never happen. Because people don’t change.
“Love begins by taking care of the closest ones – the ones at home.” – Mother Teresa
I don’t think I need to tell you what (I think) this is about. This is something we all know, love starts the second you are born. You are held in the arms of your family, or maybe just a caring nurse. They love you. And they teach you how to love. Your family takes care of you as you grow, and in the end, you return your parents the favour.
What is your opinion on these quotes? Do you agree or disagree? And why?
Or any quotes you would like to share?
Thanks for reading!